When I visited my hometown last year. While I was sitting and having some bottles of beer with my friends, this old man came and sat next to us. He tried to raise a topic, but even I wasn't interested in getting into any discussion with him.

But seeing that he was very persistent, he started to interest me and on a closer scrutiny, I realized who this old man was. I'll give him a Chukwuka Odiba as to keep the real human anonymous. I was left in total shock, to imagine that such a great man that his name was sang in our ears as kids could be begging for an audience and that audience was me?

A human whose wealth and name spiralled in the discussions of many, would sit next to me and almost give in to pleas to get into a conversion with us.

I went home that day also imagining how ached the houses we adored and wished we could step into their passages has all worn out and frail. It didn't take long before I escorted my friend to the house of yet another very prestigious human who is now a shadow of himself. We went to admonish him because he was getting into fights with teenagers.

Isolation is not far from the problems I noticed from these great men and edifices. And I wondered as we race head on to success and into the lights of class and status, if we are ever prepared for when all of these are gone.

What are our plans for readjustments. How do we settle in back and be ordinary and accept the weaknesses that comes with aging or retirement. It is easier to adjust when you succeed, I mean, people judge you less. But it is harder when you fall, and those are the moments that determine our luck to keep succeeding to survive, or spiral into irredeemable terminus.

Like I always say. If we run away from bad things, they will still happen to us. But if we run away from good things, they will never happen to us. There'll always be better gadgets, better players and smarter people coming.

Finer and more expensive cars. Beautiful people coming behind us. How do we cope with accepting that we need to step back. Not only stepping back but also considering the activities that will prolong our lives after our parts of the show is fulfilled?

This is a question I'm trying to answer for myself through deliberate analysis and introspection. But I know I don't have to always show up. I don't have to always be available and I don't have to always know. Sometimes I need to be ignorant. Sometimes I need to be dull. There are enough people to move the human agenda forward.

And I believe if we can give our all and play our part, we should count ourselves worthy and take solace in knowing that we did all we could with the little time and resources that we had at our disposal. We can always stop trying to create the impression with people that we have so much plans to do more.

Sometimes tell people you are relaxing. You are figuring things out. You are on the radar. We came from the radar and why so much in a rush to nowhere. We can always tell people it is fine to not be fine. We are not in a romantic movie. We are on earth and living life.